Dating a local fuck Buddies here. I got attracted to a woman at work recently and we got pretty close and intimate recently. At first I guess she took our friendship more serious than I did. She confessed to the racing heart sensation when she left me and I had that butterfly syndrome and couldn’t eat for a few days. This is when we backed off, I guess the fear factor of ruining the friendship came in. anything more than a no strings fun.
Funny thing, I don’t ever think it would be work to be with this woman. I might need a defibrillator when the lights go out for my heart just pounds when I’m near her, to be there in the dark, holding her hand…
She sounds like a very spontaneous and exciting type of girl to be around. Someone who is not only good looking but also has a lot of personality to boot. It was not her who initialized the break up with her boyfriend. Start serious relationship.
So I need to ask her to be completely honest with me. If they’re just friends now, it’s OK that could mark her nice character and strong personality. Not every relationship should end in an argument and leave hard feeling between two people. However I’m nut sure if she is over her previous relationship. Where is the commitment on her part?
Some attractive women are drawn to guys who are aesthetically regarded as nerdy
Your strong friendship should not be thought of as something to be lost when entering into a relationship but rather seen as a pillar of strength when entering into one! Instead of thinking what you will loose (negatively) think of what you can gain (positively). Try to convince her as well as yourself that your friendship is an ideal foundation / platform in which to launch your relationship from. It’s easy to find a local fuck buddy tonight.
If you both make a concerted and conscientious effort to make this relationship work, then it will work. Sometimes in life you just have to take the chance otherwise you will never know how good it can be. Have you ever gone out to the movies together or have done some activity as friends? I’m thinking that if you are able to spend more time together outside of the office as friends then you might not need to say anything at all and things will just develop naturally?
Just be nice, put yourself out there… and you may well find out of the girls you like
Shy men have problems thinking about how really women behave and see certain situations. It isn’t bad to wait longer for a woman. It is not okay to get obsessed about it. Have you had enough experience talking to girls even those who are not romantic partners, to make any difference, to attract her to you? Sitting around and thinking about what might have been, what you would have said, what she’d say back, etc. is draining. It might feel good, but it doesn’t get any work done. looking for casual dating and friends with benefits.
From the sound of things the girl that you are pursuing is still hung up on her ex. She seems to be the type who is very much a touchy feely type of girl and who seems to be able to declare her love to people quite liberally.
Beautiful women tend to have a whole lot of male attention
In that it was not her who initialized the break up with her boyfriend and that she continues to talk to him on a frequent basis proves that she still likes him. Perhaps to the extent of hanging out with him as friends so that some day soon he might take her back? This is not to say that you are not in it with a chance. It might be the case that her ex won’t want to take her back and if that happen you only need to persevere and hang around long enough for you to take the chance when the opportunity presents itself. Once she finds out that he won’t take her back she will eventually move on and this is where you can come in.
In that she likes you there is no doubt but I think that it is a bit to early for her to tell you whether she is looking for a new boyfriend because her mind is still with her ex. When she cusses her ex you should not feel obliged to console her or offer her advice.
Even though her feelings might be hurt it is a good hurt because it shows her that her boyfriend is no longer interested. The reality of a breakup is always harder to accept by some and sometimes you cannot put it in a way that won’t hurt them. The sooner she is able to accept that it’s no longer going to happen the better off she will be.