I’m in love with my best friend and I think I’ve always had feelings for her. I don’t remember how many times I’ve given her advice on guys, when in fact I wanted to tell her that I was better than that other guy she got attracted to. She means everything to me, but she’s too focused on stupid meaningless hookups than a real relationship. Adult Meet Ups for fuck.
If telling her means that our friendship would suffer and it would hurt her emotionally, than I would continue on as is, hurting myself rather than her. safe and discreet way to meet local fuck buddies and friends
Do you think flirting is a learned behavior or just an instinct?
It is not uncommon for people to develop very strong feelings for their best friend. If a guy is really making her unhappy, then it is probably only a matter of time before her relationship with the other guy is over. What you can do is still be there for her as a friend, yet respect the fact that she has a relationship with someone else. When / if she tells you that her relationship is over, that will be the appropriate time to tell her how you feel.
When that time should come, if I were you, I would not tell her how strong your feelings are, because she may love you, but only as a great platonic friend only and nothing more. I don’t think you’d want to stick your neck out that far, only to find that the feelings are not mutual. I strongly advise against anyone ever loving anyone more than life. I have learned to be more selfish, meaning never, ever love someone more than I love myself. The reason is that you may find that the other person’s feelings are not mutual, and getting over that is painful. Meet women looking for fun tonight.
A good ability to flirt is a useful skill in adulthood.
I suspect that your attraction to her may be due to human nature: we want most what we cannot have. The less someone is available to us, the more attractive they seem, and our feelings for that person become magnified. The respectful thing for you to do would be to NOT tell her how you feel while she is in a relationship with someone else. Just be there for her. When the time comes, do not hesitate to tell her you that you would like to date her. alcohol can play a big part in random hookups, adult get-ups, and casual sex.
Considering that you care that much about her running doesn’t sound like a proper solution to the problem. Even if you have developed romantic feelings for her. I’m sure that you would want to see her happy no matter what.
Love can be quite blind and if the guy that she wants to marry is bad for her then it is something that she will have to discover herself. As you know from first hand experience talking down a person can actually have the opposite effect of driving her into his arms.
When I flirt without realizing I’m doing it it’s not a sexual thing done in a provocative nature
The reason that you are experiencing pain at the moment is because you desire her and she has said that she cannot see you more than a friend. You could try to cut your ties and run, and or not talk to her because of this but if you really think about it. Doing these things would be for your own selfish reasons. The reason of her not reciprocating your feelings.
Stop thinking about her reciprocating your love in a way that you want to. If you can eliminate your desire (what you want) and just concentrate on loving her (what she wants) then it will be less painful for you. In fact you might notice that you will enjoy being around her more and that she will enjoy being around you. Do not compare yourself to her boyfriend in what he does, does not do for her. Perhaps this is what she likes about him because he needs looking after. Let her worry about him and for you to concentrate on enjoying the time that you have when you are with her.