My girlfriend performs oral sex like she’s trying to suck a diamond out of my penis. Her mouth feels like a Hoover sometimes and I end up getting sore. How can I tell her without hurting her?
If there’s one thing that drives me crazy, it’s readers that write in about a breakdown in communication, or nonexistent communication for that matter. Life is only as complicated as you make it and if you want her to do something you like or stop doing something you hate, then you have to let her know. Buddiesfuck.com is world great site to meet your dating partner.
Most couples fear that mentioning something that they don’t like will turn into an argument. That doesn’t have to be the case. No one likes to be criticized, to say the least, but there are ways to get your point across without causing emotional damage.
One of the best ways you can get to know what she likes when it comes to making love is to play the directions game. All you have to do is tell each other what to do.
When she makes her way down to your penis, direct her on what to do. Say things like, “go as low as you like… slowly… come back up… kiss the head… use your hand to stroke your saliva on my penis… rub my anus…” I think you get the gist of it. But keep in mind that this shouldn’t be robotic talk. Whisper, moan with pleasure when she gets it right, and when you get really excited, let her hear it.
She can tell you what to do; she can hold onto your hair and swing her hips while you keep your tongue in the same place for her to maneuver until it hits the perfect spot. Make it fun; laugh together — if you trust and love each other completely, that shouldn’t be a problem.
If she bites your penis all the time and thinks you like it, or if you know that she’s been faking her way through sex to get it over with, then maybe it’s time the two of you talked about sex openly and honestly. Use our adult dating websites for relationship today.
But rather than tell her all the things she does wrong, maybe you should focus instead on what she does right and what you’d like her to do to you. Remember that when you say something negative like, “I hate it when you…”, you’re asking for an argument because you’re broaching it the wrong way.
Here’s what you should be saying
Say things like, “I love it when you…” and “I want you to lick my [insert body part here] because I know that your tongue will work wonders on it.” Be creative and it will never be taken as criticism.
Ask her what she wants. If she becomes shy and doesn’t want to say anything, then start asking her questions regarding what she likes. Talk openly and you’ll notice that you’ll both start getting excited, and before you know it, the two of you will be naked.
The two of you can also get naked and sit in front of each other. Take your time with each other and glide your hands along her body.
Slowly, and with patience, begin kissing and caressing areas that you usually end up skipping over amid foreplay and search sex. Spend time smelling her neck, run your fingers down her spine, nibble on her hips and thighs; do the things that will turn her body and mind on.
When you’ve explored her areas thoroughly, let her do the same to you. Slowly, she’ll begin finding spots that will make you crazy. Perhaps you’ll even end up discovering new things about your own body and what turns you on.
Discuss What You Want In Bed
When it comes to having better sex, there’s never a need to rush (unless you have to be at work in 15 minutes), so don’t hurry things along and don’t skip the foreplay because that’s what leads up to incredible sex.
If you’re able to engage in sex with your fuck buddies, you should definitely be able to discuss your likes and dislikes with her.
Or better yet, instead of having sex with each other right away, take the time to get to know each other and, through some hot conversations, figure out what she likes and let her figure out what gets you going.
The fact of the matter is that if you never tell her what you like, she may never find out. And if you want to please her, then accept some of the constructive criticism that she may hand out. Keep in mind, however, that she may not know how to go about being as tactful when discussing sex.
But don’t be shy. If you’re at a point in your relationship where you’re comfortable with each other, then it’s okay to be perfectly honest with her — after all, if you’re not happy with the quality of your sex life, then other areas of your relationship may begin to suffer.
And the objective here is not to start a fight; you want to understand her and have her understand you so that you can add a twist to what could potentially be the greatest sex you’ll ever have.